Outdated Relationship Rules That it’s Time to Abandon
Times have changed and so have relationships and we no longer have to follow the traditional rules of dating. Now it’s time to take control and do what’s right for us. This includes ditching some of these outdated dating rules and making our rules. Let’s take a look at five rules we can ditch straight away.
The guy pays
Ok so traditionally the guy pays for dates in the early stages of dating, opened doors for the woman and a long list of other chivalrous acts that were considered romantic or were expected. It’s been 100 years since women got the vote so let’s ditch the old-fashioned values and treat women as equals in every sense. It’s nice to pay and spoil someone but it shouldn’t be expected that the guy pays for everything. Perhaps take it in turns to pay or pay half each. Maybe even tip the balance and let the girl pay for the date?
Don’t sleep together on the first date
Does the woman look easy if she puts out on the first date? Is it doomed if you do it on the first date and will you wake up to regret it? This is also another outdated rule of dating that needs to be abandoned. While we aren’t suggesting you jump into bed with the first man you date, if there is chemistry and it feels right then why not enjoy it? Be careful, use protection and make sure that you stay safe but there’s nothing wrong with enjoying sex on your first date. The chances are you have been building up to it anyway, especially if you got to know each other online. Plenty of people that sleep together on the first date go on to have long and happy relationships.
Waiting for the other person to make the first move
Hello, it’s the 21st century! It’s time to ditch the rule of waiting for the other person to make the first move. If you like them, tell them! Simple. You don’t need to have rules about when to call them and who should call first or how long to leave it. If you went out on a date and want to see them again tell them. If you meet someone you like talk to them. What’s the worst that can happen? If they’re not interested then rip the plaster off. If they are then you will be glad you did and so will they!
Having a ‘type’
If you’ve been in a relationship before but it didn’t work out, but you discover you have a ‘type’, it may be time to ditch this! If it didn’t work with your type of guy or girl before, what makes you think it will be any different this time? It’s time to ditch your list of must haves and broaden your horizons. Don’t be too fussy or too specific and open your mind to a different type of guy. So what if they aren’t as tall as you like or if they’re blonde when you prefer dark. It’s time for a change.
Playing hard to get
OK listen up! It’s not easy to pluck up the courage to ask someone out or to read the signals when you are dating someone new. Playing hard to get can majorly backfire! It gives off the “I’m just not that into you” impression. Don’t risk looking like a cold fish or dissuading them from calling you because you are being aloof. If you like them tell them and arrange a date! You will be glad you did.
If you are new to dating or are wondering why it never seems to work out as it should then maybe it’s time to change your approach and drop the old-fashioned dating rules that are holding you back. Enter the 21st century and modernize your relationship rules.
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