How to Start Dating as a Single Mom
How to start dating as a single mom
For many single moms this probably wasn’t what you were expecting right? When you had children you were in a relationship with someone you thought was going to be around for the foreseeable future? Of course, it’s not the same for everyone but many single moms find themselves in this positon unexpectedly.
First of all, you feel like you will never have time to date. I mean how are you going to fit it in between dance recitals, school runs and the billion other things you have to do? There will come a time when you are ready to start dating though. If you are reading this then that time could be now. We take a look at how to date being a single mom and give you some top tips.
Start online dating
First and foremost, you are going to want to meet someone. They aren’t just going to fall in your lap and unless you have time to go out every weekend then you are going to need to start an online dating profile and finding local singles in your area. Online dating gives you time to meet someone that you can enjoy a relaxed conversation with and get to know better before you even have to consider going out on your first date. When you are ready to date, you will already have done all the ground work.
Don’t feel guilty
Yes, you may be ‘Mom’ to the small people that you share your life with but you weren’t always ‘Mom’. Once you had your own identity and you did what you wanted when you pleased. You were your own person with your own dreams and ideas. Well you are still that person and it is important that you make time for you. This includes getting out and dating again and not feeling guilty about leaving the children with their grandparents, their father or friends and family. You have to take time to be you and you won’t always want to be on your own.
Be upfront about your children
If you meet someone who doesn’t have children then they may not be a huge fan of the fact that you have kids. For other men, it doesn’t bother them. In fact, many dating dads are single dads themselves and completely understand. Don’t hide the fact that you have children and they are dating ‘Mom’. Be upfront and honest. If they don’t like kids then that’s their problem and not someone you want to be wasting your time with.
Don’t introduce them to your children until you are sure
The two worlds do not need to meet. You are ‘Mom’ at home and you are you when you are on a date. Keep the two worlds separate as you get to know your potential partner. If after a few dates you are happy that things are going how they want you might want to think about the next stage of your relationship. For now, just enjoy the life you have.
There are two ways to look at this. You are bringing up kids as a single mom. For a start that takes some doing and you should be confident about what you have achieved. Use this confidence when dating and don’t be intimidated by the fact that you are dating. Secondly, that confidence that you are exuding sets a great example for your children so be proud, stand tall and enjoy your life.
How to start dating as a single mom may seem like an intimidating prospect to begin with but it doesn’t need to be. You are a woman, you need time to enjoy yourself and you aren’t going to want to be on your own forever. Get out there and enjoy your life.
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