How to Lower Your Expectations and Why You Should
Some say that the secret to happiness is low expectations and many would be inclined to agree. Having high expectations can sometimes lead to trouble and disagreements but if you decide to lower your expectations, sometimes life can become a little easier.
But how can we drop our expectations – and why should we lower them? A recent study by the University College of London found that the secret to happiness is lower expectations. Apparently happiness depends not on how well things are going but whether things are going better or worse than expected. We always like to consider the best or the worse, never wanting to just see how it is going at the time. We expect people to behave according to our expectations – and this shouldn’t always be the case. We should only expect this if they are known to display this behavior consistently.
How can you lower your expectations though? Remembering that nobody owes you anything is key. You may be on a date with someone and expect them to behave in a certain way or you may be in a relationship with your partner and think of how they should act – but at the end of the day, they don’t owe you anything really unless it has been discussed. To lower your expectations means less chance of being disappointed. We all know how horrible disappointment feels so we will do anything we possibly can to avoid it.
Do less expectations equal less disappointments? Perhaps. Holding less expectation in a potential partner means a less likely chance of getting hurt by the actions. If you don’t expect the world from them, you won’t be as upset when that world you have created potentially falls to pieces. However if you build it up in your mind, you are more likely to be devastated should everything fall apart.
To drop your expectations, you need to understand yourself, the world around you and the people around you. Study it all and see what consistent behavior they display. If someone you are around displays a certain behavior consistently, it would be foolish to continue to expect them to do anything different. If they don’t have a consistent behavior type then maybe it is possible to hold your expectations that little bit higher.
It is important to remember that dropping or lowering your expectations need not be a hardship – in fact it could potentially open up a whole new world for you. If you consistently have high expectations of every aspect of your life, you may be missing out on so much opportunity. By keeping your expectations at a lower level, you leave yourself open to much opportunity and even the chance of being pleasantly surprised at what can happen.
Perhaps lower your expectations for a little while and see what happens? You could be missing out on so much by not giving it a try – see if people can surprise you with their behavior. After all, you won’t necessarily be expecting it.
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